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Why is the world just one big problem to solve?

I cannot begin to tell you the endless amount of problems I seem to make for myself lately. Which as a result, seems to send my mood in a sky rocketing downfall. But sometimes, I am not entirely to blame. Shall I tell you why?

Things which happen in my day-to-day lifestyle, tend to make me quite upset. Today for example, was probably one of the most upsetting days for me and  for once it wasn’t me which had caused it.

I began to notice what type of world we live in.

I see it everyday, it is just some days I chose to ignore it. Doesn’t everyone?

The endless amount of people, so engrossed into their own lives (including myself).  Mothers and fathers  who are too busy on their phones to notice their children exploring and finding themselves. Men and women constantly oppressing each other, and setting stereotypes for the other to follow. Just today, whilst I was working- a man had asked me to explain to a young boy, no older than six, why flavoured lip balm was for girls. I simply couldn’t do it. I couldn’t look the boy in the eyes and tell him that he couldn’t get something his sister was getting simply because it was a belief that he couldn’t.

Why do we do that as a society? We ask children what they want to be when they grow up, but we set them rules and standards which they have to adhere to. This wasnt lip gloss, or lipstick it was lip balm. A coca-cola flavoured lip balm. But, so what if it was? At age 6 the mind is so open. He just wanted to be included with his sister.

Gender equality is just the tip of the iceberg of problems which we are choosing to ignore. Racial discrimination, environmental issues, wars and the list could continue to go on and on.

What bothers me is that when did it become so normal to be so self indulged? For once, I’d like to hear something good. Maybe it’s me just focusing on the negatives, but I just see a world where children are wishing their childhoods away, wanting to grow up without realising that experiencing childhood is what makes you do exactly that. Maybe they do so because they have parents which are too controlling or neglectful forcing them to grow up way earlier before their time.Or just maybe they actually have a perfect family, but society tells them they aren’t perfect. I see a world where women and men still aren’t equal in society, and people chose to view a feminist as a misandrist or misogynist. I see a world where even still, people are frowned upon because of their ethnicity or class. I see a world where countless numbers of animal species are becoming extinct and global warming is taking its toll but then I also see people who are still choosing to be blissfully ignorant to all the above. I see a world that will not last much longer as we are fuelling is with hatred rather than compassion and love.

So sometimes when people tell me:

“You control your own happiness!”

Just know that is truly not the case. I am one of those people, I think we all are or have been at some point. The first step is noticing that there are changes to be made.

Time, probably the most bittersweet thing in existence.

Lately, a sudden realisation of the importance of time dawned on me. There isn’t enough of it, yet there is too much of it?

Let me explain.

So many people around me complain that there isn’t enough hours in the day, but also those same people complain to me that they want something to happen sooner. I get the differences in these situations, but something which really baffled me was that this is a serious contradictory statement. How can you want more presence of time, yet also want less of it? I am sure we are all guilty of it, but there are a few things to consider.

  1. Everyone is always busy at some point. People will always have certain tasks to do, plans to attend, obligations which take up some of their time. HOWEVER: I guarantee you that nobody has every minute of everyday scheduled for. Sometimes, to enjoy life- we mustn’t plan the things which aren’t needed to. So if you are guilty at over planning (like I am) take a step back sometimes, go with the flow. I assure you, you will find so much more happiness in the presence of time this way.
  2. Don’t accept the fact that as humans, we can’t make time too. This is SO important. I see it everyday, relationships, families and friendships which are being neglected because one or both people are too busy to make time for each other. Sometimes, people genuinely can’t make time for you because they are having a busy week. Respect that, don’t overreact because someone doesn’t have the time, just re-arrange for another date. HOWEVER- if you find yourself constantly rearranging, find somewhere else to invest your time, too.
  3. Finally, appreciate the importance of time- because we will never get more of it. Time is constantly running out, so it is your job to find the good and purity in each moment. Don’t let a bad 30 seconds of your hour ruin the other 23 hours which are within a day. Don’t let a bad day ruin the other six which are within a week. Don’t let a bad month ruin your year. Most importantly: don’t let a bad year ruin your outlook on life. 

I so desperately wish I could of made more use of the past months that I have experienced, but I also appreciate the fact that those months have helped me grow and develop in ways I am not aware of yet.

The only thing I can do now is take things day by day, because after all- each day is different than the next.