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An explanation of absence- defined by yours truly.

I cannot apologise enough for the absence of writing on my blog. However, I certainly have achieved a lot in these past however many months it has been. For me, my main focus was to finally pop the little bubble I had enclosed myself in for the past several months. I avoided many things: socialising, exercise, family and even myself at times; so much so that I was on continued auto-pilot for a solid seven months. 

That was until I finally managed to escape from it all- even myself.

I took a trip back home and certainly learned a lot in the process.

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It allowed me to not only escape but upon returning the absence gave me vital knowledge for the expansion of my so called bubble. Upon returning to the UK after 8 years in Australia, I had realised- for the seven months I had no interest in giving my life a chance; my sole focus was on where I would be living in the next four years if the word “Australia” wasn’t included, I wasn’t interested. It really was that simple.

The absence allowed me to reflect on time itself. Did I really want to live four miserable years just so I knew for certain I would live in Australia one day?  Now I’m giving myself a chance to actually live for the next four years; knowing that where ever I end up- I never took my life for granted. 

Living between two countries for most my life provides you with the knowledge that you can adjust to either one and always have a life there no matter what. Why did it take me seven months to realise that the friends I had made in Australia would be life long? 

I recently stumbled across a saying:

“It is not distance that seperates us, but the silence itself” 

Which hit me harder than I thought. How many of you have friends that live within a close proximity that you haven’t seen for three, four or five months? Maybe even longer. It is true that the best of friends can pick up right where they left off, but that is not due to how close they live together or the fact that every six months they find themselves in the same room- but its rather due to the fact that now, there is communication. I promise you, if you can beat the silence in any relationship over whatever period of time-  it will last.

Now I’m giving myself a chance to actually live for the next four years; knowing that where ever I end up- I never did take my life for granted.

 

 

 

 

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Why are romantic relationships all everyone ever talks about?

It hit me the other day. Sitting down on a bench, eating my lunch on my break- watching the endless crowds of people rush by. Everyone is always so emersed in their own worlds.

Everywhere I looked, the focus was on love. Couples holding hands, kissing, hugging, buying gifts for each other. Then again, it was the month of Valentines.

But why is the focus always on romantic relationships and encounters?

Even the single people complain about not having romance during February- but there are so many things which are so important for you to have in your life. Don’t get me wrong, being in a relationship gives you a great sense of fulfilment. But to give everything to a relationship- you need to be in a sound state of mind.

And I can tell you if you are missing the following- it is almost impossible to achieve.

Support: Support is key from EVERY angle. Work, education, family life, friend circle or wherever can provide it. Without support, we can almost certainly become extremely isolated- not only physically with others, but with oneself.

Family: It is how families are supposed to naturally work, there is a person whoever that may be a mother, father, sibling or even grandparents who should be able to give you some sort of influence in your life. A family is a big part of how we grow as a person, without it can seriously affect your emotional well-being. If there are any current issues in your family life, however big or small, think long and hard about it. Holding hatred is so much more work than accepting love.

Social life: This is essential. I cannot express this enough. Sometimes to go forward in social scenarios, we must put ourselves out there, for me that is so hard. Exposing my true self, makes me feel so vulnerable! But the more I do it, the easier it gets.

Physical exercise: Is something I am seriously lacking, due to a current lack of motivation. But it is a great time to clear your head and release endorphins which literally make you feel refreshed afterwards. Start small, 15 minutes and work yourself up.

Goals and aspirations: Set the tiniest of goals to give yourself some self-pride! However small they are, they eventually lead to bigger goals. Any step forward is progress.

Direction: Question yourself. Where do you want to be in a year? 2 years? 5 years? You have the power to change your life, the only person stopping yourself from changing is yourself.